The Other Side of Nice

Tag: wellbeing

  • When helping turns into controlling

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    I’ve done a lot of reflecting over the years, and never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d ever admit that what I once believed was simply being “helpful” was truly, a form of control especially when it came to being a parent. My support wasn’t always as selfless as I told myself it…

  • How I Learned to Say No Without Guilt

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    loriday1974
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    “No” has lived at the bottom of my vocabulary for most of my life. I buried beneath politeness, people-pleasing, and a deeply rooted fear of disappointing others. On the rare occasion that I mustered up the courage to say no to something, I would drown in guilt for days afterward.  The kind, helpful and supportive…