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Divine timing and the quiet work of souls
Read more: Divine timing and the quiet work of soulsIt’s a small world!We’ve all said it. We’ve all heard it. That moment when you meet someone who knows your cousin’s best friend’s sister — even though they grew up hours away — and you just kind of laugh and shake your head like, How is that even possible? But the older I get, the…
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If you want a village, you have to be a villager
Read more: If you want a village, you have to be a villagerWe’ve all heard the saying “it takes a village.” Usually, it’s in reference to raising children — but honestly, it applies to almost every stage of life. We all crave connection, support, and a sense of belonging. I’ll be honest: I’m an introvert. I do love people when the time is right, but being social…
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Rewriting my inner voice
Read more: Rewriting my inner voiceIf there’s one voice that’s followed me through every stage of life, it’s the one inside my head: the critic. You know the one, the voice that whispers you’re not enough, you should’ve done better, they’re upset because of you. For far too many years, I listened to that voice without question because I thought…
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My Reiki journey
Read more: My Reiki journeystock photo My first Reiki session was not at all what I expected. I knew they worked with energy, but honestly, I didn’t even know what that meant. I read the description of the session when I booked it – “a relaxing experience”. I was surprised when the practitioner started crying almost as soon as…
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Making peace with my past
Read more: Making peace with my pastI’ve lost count of the years I carried the weight of my past mistakes like a heavy coat I couldn’t take off. Exhausting! Every wrong choice, every argument, or every time I fell short was a reminder that I wasn’t enough. I used to think that if I could just fix the present, I could…
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How I finally learned my worth
Read more: How I finally learned my worthPhoto credit: Jordyn Day It took me far longer than I care to admit to finally like who I am and celebrate my worth. It wasn’t until I was in my very late 30’s that I started to see that I was a good person who deserved to be happy. Codependency taught me to look…
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World mental health day – why awareness matters
Read more: World mental health day – why awareness mattersOctober 10th is World Mental Health Day, and for me, in recent years, it lands like a gentle nudge. A reminder to stop, breathe, and ask myself: how am I, really? This day reminds me that mental health isn’t something “other people” deal with. It’s all of us. It’s me. It’s you. It’s the quiet…
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The power of positivity: How shifting my self-talk changed everything
Read more: The power of positivity: How shifting my self-talk changed everythingThere’s a period of my life I look back on now and actually chuckle. My friend Ali and I used to have what we called our “bitching sessions.” We’d either get together or email (yes, we’re ancient) and pour out everything that was wrong in our lives, feeding off each other’s frustrations. At the time,…
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You don’t have to drink to need a 12-step program
Read more: You don’t have to drink to need a 12-step programWhen most people hear the words 12-step program, their minds immediately jump to Alcoholics Anonymous. To be fair, that was always my assumption too. I never dreamed it would be something I would benefit from. The reality is, there are 12-step programs for codependency, and they speak to your struggles just as powerfully as they…
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The voice that changed the room
Read more: The voice that changed the roomSome words live rent-free in your mind; not because they’re dramatic or loud, but because they arrived exactly when you needed them. I’ve always been anxious and terribly self-conscious. (I’ll share more about how I learned my worth in a future post.) I think this ties into everything I’ve written about so far: our life…
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A lifeline wrapped in fur
Read more: A lifeline wrapped in furRecently, a memory popped up on my Facebook from 11 years ago: the day we brought home our first puppy. From the time she was little, my daughter begged and begged for a dog. We had always been a cat household, and I kept telling her, “When the time is right.” Honestly, I wasn’t even…
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Vienna waits for you – learning to slow down and live
Read more: Vienna waits for you – learning to slow down and liveThere’s a line from one of my daughter’s favorite Billy Joel songs, Vienna, that I never truly appreciated until she read it to me like a poem. I’ve never claimed to be a huge Billy Joel fan — I think his “Uptown Girl” era ruined it for me, lol. But I digress. The point is,…
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Breaking generational curses – even now with my grown children
Read more: Breaking generational curses – even now with my grown children“I will never treat my children like that!” I used to mutter those words to my parents often, especially in my teen years. It was my small rebellion, my private promise to myself that I would do better—even if I didn’t know yet what “better” looked like. For a long time, I believed healing had…
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Letting go when the nest finally empties
Read more: Letting go when the nest finally emptiesThis post might not be original because I know many parents have shared similar stories about the empty nest when kids go off to college or university, but here’s my perspective. Even though it’s a common experience, the feelings are still deeply personal each time a parent goes through it. From the time my children…
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The hardest boundary I’ve ever had to keep (and why I still struggle with it)
Read more: The hardest boundary I’ve ever had to keep (and why I still struggle with it)Over the years, I’ve learned how to set boundaries. It used to feel impossible but with the help of therapy, a few tears, and trial-by-fire, I have learned how to say no. There’s one boundary that still knocks the wind out of me. One that I have to recommit to daily, sometimes hourly: Not rescuing…
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Letting go of resentment
Read more: Letting go of resentmentPhoto Credit: Jordyn Day Resentment is one of those quiet weights we carry without realizing it. We don’t always realize how intricately it has woven itself into our thoughts, actions, and relationships until the moment we try to embark on releasing it. Resentment is not what I ever would have imagined; for me, it wasn’t…
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Being kind doesn’t mean being a doormat
Read more: Being kind doesn’t mean being a doormatThere’s this perception that a kind person is one who always says yes.Or at least that was my perception for a long time. I thought that if I said no to extra work, invitations, favors, or anything that made me uncomfortable, I’d be viewed as difficult; maybe even bitchy, and for someone like me —…
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Burnout isn’t always obvious
Read more: Burnout isn’t always obviousBurnout means something different to all of us. Maybe it looks like lying on the floor, unable to move, crying in the bathroom at work or not being able to get out of bed. The thing is, yes, it can absolutely look like all of that, personally I’ve learned that sometimes burnout is sneakier. Sometimes…
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The one we don’t talk about (and that’s a good thing)
Read more: The one we don’t talk about (and that’s a good thing)There’s a moment that sticks with me from one of my therapy sessions. I was deep in conversation unraveling worries about one child, then my father’s illness and on top of that; grandchildren and being a caregiver when I had barely anything left to give— when my therapist gently asked:“Have you ever noticed we rarely…
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